Baas over eigen kut!

Van 9 tot 5 op een andere manier. Als de nacht valt, dan ben ik aan het werk. Mijn werk vanuit kantoor als beheerder om de sekswerkers te ondersteunen in wat zij doen. Werken, maar dan vanuit de empowerment vanuit hun eigen kracht, om hun lichaam te verkopen. Eigenlijk net zoals een fitness model dat doet, of een voetballer of danser. Mijn eerste dag was een enerverende avond waarop het brandalarm afging en er wat vervelende klanten waren die ik moest wegsturen. Het is een baan die niet snel verveeld en waardoor je de dames echt beter leert kennen. Want dat is wat wij doen.

Er worden in de politiek beslissingen genomen over hun lijven, maar er wordt hen niet gevraagd wat zij nou eigenlijk vinden. Dit vind ik hetzelfde als Baas in Eigen Buik. Baas Over Eigen Kut! Het leven hier op de Wallen heeft mij altijd geïntrigeerd en ik vind het een goed initiatief om de meiden zelf het heft in eigen handen te laten nemen en hen daarbij te helpen. Het wordt nog steeds als een taboo gezien. Het zijn dames die gewoon netjes hun belasting betalen, schaffen alles aan wat er nodig is om in hun werk te voorzien, bijvoorbeeld een pin-automaat, wat veel banken overigens niet aan hen willen verhuren. Ja ook dat is discriminatie. En alleen maar omdat zij hun lichaam verkopen, iets wat ze zelf moeten weten en waar zij zelf de baas over zijn!

Ik hoop wat dat betreft dat we in een minder bekrompen “whorephobia” wereld zullen gaan leven, waar zij gewoon gezien worden als zzp’ers. Net zoals de bakker, net zoals dansers. Net zoals elke zzp’er in Nederland dus.

Maryo, beheerder bij My Red Light, 23 oktober 2019

Different bodies, same needs….

As an experienced sex worker I’ve seen a lot of interesting people in my life. But some of the most special and rewarding clients that I’ve met were either physically or mentally challenged.

Let me tell you a little story about one of them.

Because I’ve worked as an escort most of the time a lot of my clients contacted me through email or by phone. On a summer day back in 2014 I got an e-mail, saying that the person would like to book in a date at his hotel when he would come to Amsterdam the next week. But before making any agreements there were some difficulties that we had to sort out and he was wondering if I would be able to provide services to a disabled person. The client had a rare muscular disease which made him paralyzed for the most part of his body.

Because he contacted me in advance and was open and honest about it, I told him that I appreciated this and I would have no problem coming to see him.

The following week I made my way down to his hotel, met him in the lobby and already saw a radiantly smiling face because I was there. He then later told me that he had been trying to get an experience with a girl like me (I am a transgender woman) but most of the times he would get rejected or didn’t even get a response back. After reading my profile and reviews of me, he dared to try again so he was really happy that I was there. We got to the room, cuddled and made out, I undressed and then waited in the bathroom so someone could come in the room, take his clothes off and lay him in bed. Then after the other person was gone I could come back and we did our thing. He gave me directions here and there, I followed them precisely and we had a very successful session.

The biggest reward was seeing a person that couldn’t do much about his disability just be happy and feel treated like any other person. They have the same wants and needs as any of us.

A question I get a lot when I have these types of clients is if I charge more or if I would give them a discount. The answer is simple. No I don’t.

I have always worked with set rates for everyone and wouldn’t change that just because someone is “different”. Because when you really look at it, we’re all different in any shape, way or form.

I treat everyone just as equally, so no upcharging or a discount. After all I’m still providing the same services.

Fun fact; did you know that here at My Red Light we have a special room for disabled people? It has a large easy-to-access entrance for wheelchairs, a special toilet and shower room. For those with special needs who want to visit a girl on the red light district, we will have a room available to cater to your needs!

Untill next time!

XOXO’s Sunny, Beheerder at My Red Light, 7 September 2019

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Thank you for visiting the blog of My Red Light!

One of the goals of My Red Light is to help people to learn more about sex work and sex workers, because we have noticed that many people have misconceptions about this business. We believe that these misconceptions contribute to the taboo and stigma that surrounds sex work, and that those in turn result in discrimination (e.g. many banks, insurers, mortgage providers, apartment letting organizations, mobile payment solutions and many others refuse to work with sex workers or with people or organizations who otherwise work in the sex work sector (like My Red Light)). Especially for policymakers we believe it is pivotal that they have a realistic view of the sex work sector, so we invite them specifically to read this Blog!

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Rik, current board member, Saturday 7 September 2019